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Frequently Asked Questions
The digital world is pretty mature - how "spicy" is this book?
This book is not graphic or explicit, and it doesn’t include detailed descriptions of mature content. However, it does address real issues that are showing up in today’s digital world, including sextortion, exposure to inappropriate images, eating disorders, and self-harm content. Unfortunately, these topics can’t be separated from how social media and online spaces impact kids today.
Rather than sensationalizing or overwhelming, each topic is handled with care, clarity, and age-appropriate language—focused on helping girls understand what’s happening, build discernment, and feel safe talking with trusted adults. The goal is not fear, but wisdom, confidence, and connection in navigating the digital world.
Why focus on girls - don't boys need this too?
Yes. The principles in this book are valuable for both girls and boys. However, the language, examples and design are intentionally tailored to help girls feel seen and supported in a way that speaks directly to their lived experience. While every child is unique, research consistently shows that the rise in anxiety, depression, and digital distress linked to unhealthy social media use is higher for girls than for boys. Developmentally, middle school girls are often more impacted by social comparison and identity pressure online, while middle school boys are more often drawn toward achievement, mastery, and immersive digital environments. There is meaningful overlap, but these patterns help explain why this resource is intentionally designed to support girls in this formative season.
Do you have a high school version?
Not yet. This book was intentionally written for upper elementary and middle school girls, but it was reviewed by a Teen Advisory Board that included girls from 4th grade through college. That wide range of feedback helped ensure the content feels relevant, honest, and respectful across different ages.
You’ll also find real examples and reflections from older girls, including college-aged students, woven throughout the book to help bridge understanding across developmental stages. The response has been overwhelmingly positive, with many girls sharing that while they’ve been asked to read similar books before, this is the first one that truly “gets me.”
If you have an older teen who might benefit from it, consider grabbing a copy for her to preview for a younger sister, cousin, or friend. When she reads it, invite her input—ask what resonates, what feels missing, and what she would add. Her perspective can be a meaningful part of the conversation too.
Were professionals consulted in the development of this book?
Yes! This book was developed in collaboration with a team of professionals who kept the content sharp and true:
- Becky Alfred, MD | Pediatrician + Certified Parent Coach
- Susan Dunaway, LCPC | Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor + Digital Neuroscience Consultant
- Megan Endres, LSCSW, LMAC | Behavioral + Mental Health Clinician
- Allyson Evans | NextGen Pastor
- Juhi Kangas, MD | Pediatrician + Certified Parenting Coach
- Lainie Montgomery | Director of Spiritual Formation, ACSI
- Riley Roberts | Director of Student Ministries
- Megan Schoff, CRNA | Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist
- Jenn Tews | Award Winning Middle School Educator
- Brenda Walden, LCMFT | Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist + Co-founder of Screen Sanity
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